In preparation for spell works, rituals, or any kind of spiritual workings, it is recommended to properly ground, cleanse and protect your energy. You’ll have a much higher success rate when you are grounded, energy is cleansed and you are protected.
Grounding your energy will keep your energy, as the word suggests, grounded and where it’s supposed to be. You can quickly ground yourself through visualization, just bring attention to your breath and imagine yourself growing roots deep into the Earth. Walking barefoot on grass is also a great way to ground yourself, bringing attention to your breath. As you can notice there’s a pattern with bring attention to breath, being that it is the breath of life that allows us to live, soul
Cleansing your energy will be similar, bring attention to your breath and visualize yourself being surrounded by white or gold light that is clearing out any stagnant or muck that’s in your energy field. You can also light incense, or sage yourself as well.
Protection can be a simple prayer to your spirit team; your angels, ancestors and guides, such as “I ask my angels, ancestors and spirit guides to come together and protect me from harm as I do this (type of work).” You can also wear a crystal for protection and that will work during workings as well. It’s all on what works for you, what you like or want to do and remember it’s always up to you. What you believe will work for you will work for you, and visa versa. Trust in your intuition and inner guidance 🙂
When we interact with people, get into relationships, whether platonic or romantic, this creates an energetic cord between you and this person. You can also create energetic cords with places and things as well. We sometimes create energetic bonds with people that eventually become unhealthy or toxic, this is the case with energy vampires, read more about that here.
A cord cutting ritual or ceremony is intended to cut any unhealthy energetic cords between you and other people. Many people like to use cord cutting rituals after break ups to help severe those ties. I personally use them every so often to cut ties between old relationships as well as old limiting beliefs that no longer serve my best and highest good
The physical actions for the cord cutting is simple, all you need is two candles and a piece of string/cord/twine. Tie the twine into a circle with a knot and place the candles on either end inside of the twine. Some rituals call for it to be wrapped a few times, it’s honestly up to you. You can get a little more fancy, if you would like by dressing the candles in herbs or burn the candles with herbs around it. The type of candle does not really matter, you can use chime/taper candles or tealight candles, whatever you have will work. Use your intuition and allow it to guide you.
This is my version of a cord cutting, as mentioned, you can add more elements as you feel called to. As with all workings, make sure you are grounded and protected before starting, you can read about how to do that here.
Gather your supplies and get yourself in a space where you are comfortable and won’t be disturbed for the duration of the ritual.
Start by dressing your candles, if you want and tying the twine together to create a loop.
Place your candles apart and place the twine around the candles, pulling them apart to create slight tension to hold the twine in place. Place the candles in a burn safe plate or container and fill it with a bit of water to help keep it cool and prevent fire as well as absorb any negative energies during the burning.
Set your intention by mediating for a bit on what you wish to do, example focusing on severing the cords between you and who/whatever or you can write a petition, which is basically writing all the intentions down on paper.
Light the candles and watch the flames and cord burning. You can refer to the basic flame meanings below or use your intuition to pull insights during the burning.
After the burning, you can keep track of how long the candles burned for for more insights or read the leftover wax. Remember whatever comes to mind for wax reading will be your additional insights. Dispose of the candle and remains and remove from your property immediately.
You can do this as often or infrequent as you would like, remember to trust your intuition and follow your inner guidance.
Basic Flame Meanings
Tall, Strong flame: A tall, strong flame indicated that the work is working, strong enough to push through any obstacles and tall enough to reach the height of your goals and intentions.
Low flame: A low flame can indicate that more work needs to be done for there to be good results. This can indicate not enough energy for the spell to work.
Short, Weak flame: A short and weak flame can indicate that your intentions or timing may be off, especially if it weakens.
Steady flame: A steady flame is a positive indication that the spell is working in your favor.
Blue/Colored flame: A blue or colored flame other than orange and yellow can indicate the presence of a spirit, angel or highly evolved entity.
Dancing flame: A dancing flame indicates that the work will work, but not without any problems/resistance. Notice how tall or short the flame is, this can indicate the level of resistance.
Flickering flame: Notice the direction that the flame is flickering towards. The direction can be interpreted via the 4 compass points.
Crackling/ Popping flame: A crackling/popping flame can indicate resistance or opposing forces, use your intuition as if it is opposing forces, you will generally know exactly who it is. A better interpretation would be to take in consideration what kind of work you are performing, example if you are doing protection work, a crackling or popping flame would indicate someone with bad intentions is talking about you or working against you.
Dual flame: A dual flame can indicate that another force, energy, spirit or deity has joined the work and is generally a good sign that your work is working. It also depends on the type of work being done, in protection work, it would indicate that the intended target is reflecting the work back to you, while in hexing work, it would indicate that the new force has joined to help the work.
Flame self-extinguishes: This means that the work is done, a self extinguishing flame is a great indication that your work went well and your prayer was received by the Spirit world.
Quick burning, uneven: A quick burning that is uneven can indicate that you were not properly grounded before starting. Try again at a different time, if the results are the same, you need to recast another time.
Quick burning, even: A quick and even burning is a great indication that your spell worked, however a super quick and out of control burning indicates that you may need to reevaluate your work.
Remember that your initial indications and insights always trump a basic meaning or explanation. Trust your intuition and inner guidance.
I do offer a cord cutting ritual that’s seasonal, you can book yours here.
An energy vampire refers to someone who knowingly or unknowingly, drains your emotional energy. Energy vampires feed on your willingness to listen and give a fuck about them. Anyone anywhere can be an energy vampire. It can be your parents or even best friend. YOU might even find out you’ve been taking on some characteristics as well. Energy vampires are simply people who aren’t aware of of their emotional needs or respecting others’ boundaries because they simply don’t respect or enforce their own. Remember people are doing the best they can with the understanding, insight and awareness that they have.
7 ways to spot an energy vampire
They lack accountability
Energy vampires, as I mentioned, don’t respect other people’s boundaries. This is often due to their lack of or refusal of being aware. They sometimes know they are in the wrong, however they don’t want to face the facts. They always somehow find a way to push the blame off on someone else, it’s never their fault.
It’s always a competition
They are always try to one up you. You get new shoes, they got a new outfit. It’s somehow always a competition. We are all different and meant to be that way, there is no competition and comparison. Insecurity in one’s uniqueness leads to jealousy and the need to compete with others.
It’s all about themall the time
Most of the time y’all are together is spent talking about them, their drama, their issues. Venting is really just emotional dumping. We’ve all done it, again it’s about awareness and accountability. There are other ways to feel through our emotions than to dump it all on someone and then feel better.
They manipulate your kindness against you
You offer to help, now they are always just signing you up. It can be a small thing, a ride to the store and then it’s them “tagging” along everywhere, without giving you gas money. “Well you were already going, my house is on the way.”
They give you ultimatums & guilt trip you
“If you don’t do this, then you don’t love/care about me.” Even “Do this or you’re not my child anymore.” Are you starting to see the hidden pattern? Many of these are ‘inherited’ and learned from our parents, this is way our healing is soul important, we are healing generational wounds. Many of us have heard soul many ultimatums and guilt trips that we think it’s normal or even worst that it’s right.
They use bullying or intimidation to get their way
Many of our first bullies are family members, this desensitizes us to bullying outside the home, some even taking it on as a personality trait.
They are cynical and tend to focus on the negative
Point of view: You can tell your highest hopes and dreams and you’ll get a “Well that’s not realistic.” Other’s fears and limitations are not your reality. If someone is projecting fear and insecurity on you, you will notice it right away. You may brush it off, but their comment bothered you for a reason. Unsolicited comments about how positive someone is a clear indication you’re in the presence of an energy vampire.
How to protect against energy vampires
The quickest and easiest way to protect against energy vampires is to stop going around them! Set your boundaries and stand by them, easier said than done, especially with family members, but necessary for you and your energetic health. There’s no need to explain yourself, you don’t have to. You are doing what is necessary to protect your inner child and you.
One of my favorite ways, especially since showing up on social media and the internet, is to cover your crown. Your crown chakra is right on the top of your head and is where you receive divine insights to process & understand/become aware of them. If you are going to be around strangers, crowds/groups of people, even to the grocery store and you are sensitive, just throw on a cap or wrap your head with a scarf/cloth. This intentional physical step will also help train you to be more aware.
Last, but not least, utilize crystals. Crystal, minerals and gems each have metaphysical as well as physical properties that can aid in healing and protection. A great rule of thumb is black crystals for protection, black tourmaline is a favorite among many for protection. Selenite is also great in combination with black tourmaline, as selenite is self charging, cleansing and charges other crystals. Do your own independent research on what crystals you are drawn to. I suggest going to your local metaphysical shop and shopping with feeling. Hold the crystal in your hand or run your hands through the bowl and allow your hand to pick one.
The key is intention. The power lies within your intention and belief of that protection. Speak success into your protection work, words cast spells, don’t speak fear or doubt or even dwell on a negative thought about it for even a minute! Good luck and love you!
Vy the Truth 