What is an energy vampire
An energy vampire refers to someone who knowingly or unknowingly, drains your emotional energy. Energy vampires feed on your willingness to listen and give a fuck about them. Anyone anywhere can be an energy vampire. It can be your parents or even best friend. YOU might even find out you’ve been taking on some characteristics as well. Energy vampires are simply people who aren’t aware of of their emotional needs or respecting others’ boundaries because they simply don’t respect or enforce their own. Remember people are doing the best they can with the understanding, insight and awareness that they have.
7 ways to spot an energy vampire
They lack accountability
Energy vampires, as I mentioned, don’t respect other people’s boundaries. This is often due to their lack of or refusal of being aware. They sometimes know they are in the wrong, however they don’t want to face the facts. They always somehow find a way to push the blame off on someone else, it’s never their fault.
It’s always a competition
They are always try to one up you. You get new shoes, they got a new outfit. It’s somehow always a competition. We are all different and meant to be that way, there is no competition and comparison. Insecurity in one’s uniqueness leads to jealousy and the need to compete with others.
It’s all about them all the time
Most of the time y’all are together is spent talking about them, their drama, their issues. Venting is really just emotional dumping. We’ve all done it, again it’s about awareness and accountability. There are other ways to feel through our emotions than to dump it all on someone and then feel better.
They manipulate your kindness against you
You offer to help, now they are always just signing you up. It can be a small thing, a ride to the store and then it’s them “tagging” along everywhere, without giving you gas money. “Well you were already going, my house is on the way.”
They give you ultimatums & guilt trip you
“If you don’t do this, then you don’t love/care about me.” Even “Do this or you’re not my child anymore.” Are you starting to see the hidden pattern? Many of these are ‘inherited’ and learned from our parents, this is way our healing is soul important, we are healing generational wounds. Many of us have heard soul many ultimatums and guilt trips that we think it’s normal or even worst that it’s right.
They use bullying or intimidation to get their way
Many of our first bullies are family members, this desensitizes us to bullying outside the home, some even taking it on as a personality trait.
They are cynical and tend to focus on the negative
Point of view: You can tell your highest hopes and dreams and you’ll get a “Well that’s not realistic.” Other’s fears and limitations are not your reality. If someone is projecting fear and insecurity on you, you will notice it right away. You may brush it off, but their comment bothered you for a reason. Unsolicited comments about how positive someone is a clear indication you’re in the presence of an energy vampire.
How to protect against energy vampires
The quickest and easiest way to protect against energy vampires is to stop going around them! Set your boundaries and stand by them, easier said than done, especially with family members, but necessary for you and your energetic health. There’s no need to explain yourself, you don’t have to. You are doing what is necessary to protect your inner child and you.
One of my favorite ways, especially since showing up on social media and the internet, is to cover your crown. Your crown chakra is right on the top of your head and is where you receive divine insights to process & understand/become aware of them. If you are going to be around strangers, crowds/groups of people, even to the grocery store and you are sensitive, just throw on a cap or wrap your head with a scarf/cloth. This intentional physical step will also help train you to be more aware.
Last, but not least, utilize crystals. Crystal, minerals and gems each have metaphysical as well as physical properties that can aid in healing and protection. A great rule of thumb is black crystals for protection, black tourmaline is a favorite among many for protection. Selenite is also great in combination with black tourmaline, as selenite is self charging, cleansing and charges other crystals. Do your own independent research on what crystals you are drawn to. I suggest going to your local metaphysical shop and shopping with feeling. Hold the crystal in your hand or run your hands through the bowl and allow your hand to pick one.
The key is intention. The power lies within your intention and belief of that protection. Speak success into your protection work, words cast spells, don’t speak fear or doubt or even dwell on a negative thought about it for even a minute! Good luck and love you!
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